What is a Funeral Consumers Alliance?
We are a non-profit, educational consumers organization, committed to providing
information to consumers. We want to protect everyone's right to choose a simple, meaningful, economical, dignified funeral or memorial service.
Who runs it?
We are a democratic organization, with
unpaid directors and officers elected from the membership.
We are not connected in any way with cemeteries or with funeral
establishments, nor is there any religious affiliation.
Our work is done by volunteers.
What does it cost to join?
There is a one-time fee of $30 per adult for membership. Fill out an
application and an
instruction
form to let your survivors know what your wishes are.
Should I pay for my funeral in advance?
No.
What is the difference between a funeral and a memorial service?
The body is usually present at a funeral service. With a memorial
service, the body is not present. It is disposed of separately,
by burial, by cremation or by donating organs or the whole
body to research.
A memorial service can be held at any time that is convenient for
family and friends, at a church, a park, a home or any place you choose.
You can schedule a memorial service without worrying about preserving the
body for viewing.
Does the law require embalming?
Of course, you may want embalming if it is important to you that
relatives be able to view your body before it is buried or cremated.
The Cemetery and Funeral Bureau of the
California Department of Consumer Affairs provides
information on the
current laws in California. They have an on-line CONSUMER GUIDE TO
FUNERAL AND CEMETERY
PURCHASES. It may also be ordered, free, from the Department,
400 R Street, Sacramento, CA 95814. Att: Funerals.
It contains a glossary of terms, suggestions for families, up-to-date
legal information, answers to a host of questions on burial, cremation
and other matters of interest to consumers. There are also instructions
for filing a complaint with the Department of Consumer Affairs.
Also, the national
Funeral Consumers' Alliance
dispels some of the common misinformation on this subject. Click on
their link to "Frequently Asked Questions."
Are there rules I must follow in planning my funeral
or memorial gatherings?
Absolutely not. However, many FCA members believe
money spent on elaborate funerals and expensive coffins could better be
spent on the living. Some members, not all, prefer simpler
arrangements. The choice should be yours. Your options include the following:
What if I change my mind about my funeral wishes?
Many people do modify their wishes. Simply fill out a new
Instruction
form, and distribute it to all your family and friends who might be involved
in disposal of your body.
What happens if I move after I join?
If you move locally, please tell us your
new address.
If you move out of the area, it is easy to transfer your membership to a similar group,
for a minimal charge or sometimes without charge. There are more than a hundred
affiliates around the country. We can help you find a Funeral Consumers Alliance near
your new home, or check out the national Funeral Consumers
Alliance directory.
What happens if I die away from home?
Your next of kin can arrange for cremation near the place of death,
and the ashes can be shipped home, if that was your preference. The national
Funeral Consumers Alliance has a
directory
which can provide the name of the nearest affiliated funeral consumers alliance
or memorial society.
If your family wants your body shipped home for burial, they should contact the home
mortuary which you have chosen for your final arrangements.
For death outside the United States, the nearest U.S. embassy or consulate
can provide assistance.
For more details on all these matters, visit the national
Funeral Consumers Alliance
webpage, and click on their
Frequently Asked Questions.
If I join, must I attend meetings or take part in other
ways?
Your involvement can be as great or as little as you choose. As a
member you do have a voice in the conduct of your organization's affairs.
It is not required, but you are encouraged to attend the annual
meeting, at which time you can vote on the election of directors,
review financial statements, and provide input on matters of
policy. If you wish to become active, volunteer
assistance will be appreciated.
Have I forgotten anything?
Please be sure that your family members know what your funeral
wishes are. Give written copies of your instructions to anyone
who might be involved in your final arrangements.
For other questions, please contact us.
We do not recommend prepaying in most cases. Some of what you pay
will go toward commissions and administrative costs. Also, you may
move away or change your mind. In addition, the funeral home may go
out of business or be bought up by a chain of mortuaries that might
not honor your wishes in the way you expected.
California does not require embalming unless a body will be
moved by public transportion. If a body must be preserved a
long time before cremation or burial, then it must be embalmed or
refrigerated.
Your
Instruction Form
gives you the opportunity to specify the kind of arrangements you wish. You make the decision.
(Parts of this answer were adapted from the
Funeral Consumers Alliance
© 1999.)